((Pegasus))
I'm another recovering crack addict, and agree with everything Kitty said, as well as the others. I didn't get into recovery until my consequences got bad enough that the bad far outweighed the "good" in using.
If he wants recovery, he will find it, whether or not you stay together. I, personally, don't blame you for not wanting to stick around to see if he wants it. I left my XABF because he's been doing crack for 25+ years and, other than the times he's in jail and thinks he wants to get clean, crack is his entire life.
Keep reading and posting here. You've found a place with some wonderful, supportive people! Keep the focus on you and your kids, and let him do whatever he needs to do for him. For most of us A's (addicts) it's our best chance...love us enough to step back and let us fall and figure out how to get back up.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy