I am secular in that i do not believe in god. However I do do the 12 steps and amends...I've posted some about steps in the secular 12 step thread. Even if you don't do AA, you may find valuable expereince on amends by people who have done them in aa as well as secular peoples expereince.
I absolutely know that most of the areas that I "harmed" other people...they also harmed me...intentionally or unknowingly...
Amends for me it THE trickiest parts of getting well.
I'm at work so I can't post more
One of the amends i need to make is working when at work.
Glad you found us (hug)