welcome to s.r. i am glad you are going to a meeting. they help alot. the steps apply to a wife, mother, or just a friend of an addict. they appy to all. this is your husbands problem & only he can help himself. my son was (is) a crack addict. it is a terrible drug that will take him over. it will suck the life out of you living with an addict. it will only get worse the longer he is on it. read the stickys at the top of the forum"what addicts do", read around here. there is alot of advise. keep coming back & let us know how u are doing.hugs & prayers,