My motto is always "If I'm married to him hands off." However, if his family will pay out of their own pockets for detox then welcome that for now. At least it isn't coming from you and putting you in more financial burden. Try looking at it from that perspective. Also, have another conversation with his family. They might want to go to Alanon or Naranon meetings to prevent further enabling and let him know that HELP only comes when you want HELP.
Other than that, your on your own if you continue to use.
Even if you also had a "heads up on your wedding day the situation may still be the same. You fell in love with him for a reason and married him for a reason (without knowing about his addiction). You can't change the past. It will eat you alive and consume you just thinking about it. You can't change it. Move forward and work on you while he's working on himself. Time will only tell where the 2 of you will end up. Just prepare yourself for either way the wind blows.
