Cass,
they lie. That's what they do.
Unfortunatly I have the opposite trait, I tell the truth way tooooo much.....
In fact it causes me problems with the bf, because it provides them information to throw back in your face....
trust only those who YOU trust.
I've learned, that although I pride myself on pesonal insight and honesty w/thyself and others.....
the others who get my honesty now, are those whom I TRUST.
If you can't trust them, don't give up too much of you.
Love ya girl,,,, wish I could be of more help on the subject.....
Proud of you today though.
You are getting there....
Love,
Cessy