Originally Posted by
Barbara52 
If she is still drinking, she isn't in recovery.
Please try to concentrate on yourself and your needs/issues/desires. Her problems are hers to solve. She obviously know where the support she needs can be found. Let it go.
There is your answer
It took me five years from "the decision" to quit and actually putting the drink down
That whole "first step" where we admit we are powerless over alcohol isn't "hooey", I wasn't "done" until I was "done" and many alcoholics never get "done" I am the only one in my family.
I have now learned through coming here and attending other meetings that I am "powerless over alcohol" and it doesn't matter who's drinking it.