I'd be pretty buzzed on half a bottle of wine that's for sure. You said something that really freaked me out "so I was allowed to drink only when he was around"..ALLOWED? Sorry.. that bristles me up a bit.
However, that being said, you did marry him, and I'm assuming knew pretty much what you were facing.
Hun, I really don't know what to say other than, if you can quit for a month and not even think about, you likely don't have a problem. If that's a problem for you, then.....
What do YOU want to do? Have you guys ever tried couples counseling? Just to get another brian in the room to sort some of this out?
Good luck, stick around, keep us posted !!