You said you rarely have more than two glasses (means half a bottle). From what the normal wine glass holds, I believe six oz, I don't think half a bottle is just two glasses, maybe twice that much.
Why don't you try going without drinking at all for two weeks. See how you feel after two weeks, and whether he's relaxed his 'hold' on your life in those two weeks.
He does sound very controlling, especially what you said about his needing no other company than yours. So called 'normal' married couples do have friends outside of their marriage and don't make their spouse their only real 'friend'.
Or maybe try drinking only two six ounce glasses of wine, not half a bottle. See what that does for you.
Only you can decide if you have a problem with alcohol, but your husband's behavior and comments, as told by you, send up red flags for me, having been in a relationship in the past with a very controlling and abusive man.
I wish you well.
