To be honest, I made my Husband move out, I was not about to let him take what my children knew as ther home away, I'm stubborn that way, I just felt he had the problem the kids should not have to give up there home. Now I owned my home, not free a clear but it was mine and I fought real hard to keep it, we stayed for about a year after he left. Then I put the house up for sale and moved into a smaller one, but this way the kids were told about the move and were comfortable with it. My ex never once thought it was a way to get back into my life, he felt the same as I did, that the kids should not have to give it up.