Good job, ExNavy! I have a soft spot for military guys and gals. I worked for the USO at one time. An amazing experience, a great privilege for me.
Keep taking it one day at a time. Believe me, it does get so much better. Don't worry about what you might miss. by giving the the wine country a miss. for now. In the bigger picture, you could miss out on true happiness. Just take care of today.
Love,
Lenina