Originally Posted by
dazednconfuzed 
I'm thinking about how horrible it's been all these years and what a hellhole my life has become. I'm thinking about how stuck I've become. I'm thinking about how I don't even know if I like this person - AND WOULD I LIKE THIS PERSON SOBER?
I think only time can answer that question. All you can do is proceed on whatever path you need to follow while you work on yourself. He will do what he does regardless of your actions or words. He will recover or not. He will become whatever he becomes. You get to work on yourself and decide as time goes on what you want and need in your life.