((((ohbrother)))))
I have an AH who is on Suboxone that is 34 going on 13 so I can totaly relate..
Just because our addicts are clean does not mean that the addictive behavior goes away anytime soon.
I read someplace that the addict has the maturity level of the age when they first started abusing drugs.. in my AH's case, his teenage years.. It's difficult when dealing with an adolescent adult because you feel like the parent instead of the SO and it's so hard to not act like the parent... I have to constantly remind himself that I am not his mother..
My AH is not bringing much money in these days either but he sure does spend it like he is.. I have just been cutting things off when I know that I will not have money to pay the bill... Somethings like the internet and direct Tv will allow you to suspend service for a few months due to financial hardships and thats what I'm doing. All these services are in my name so I can do as I wish.. I look at it this way.. If he is not bringing home the bacon then I'm going to just have to turn off the frying pan.. He gets angry and throws his little tantrums when I do this but instead of arguing with him I just walk away... Maybe hitting him where it hurts will encourage him to go out and get a better job so that he can have the things that he enjoys... until then though, he can suffer the consequences..
Maybe this is something that your sisters bf can try.