Thanks Ann, I am really thankful that I found the SR, because there are no Coda meetings here, there was an alanon meeting a few years ago with just three members including me, but at the time the other members didn't have a child with addiction problems so they couldn't totally understand what I was going through, at least thats how I felt at the time...So I have been dealing with my Son's drinking problem on my own and also dealing with my daughter on going problems...But I have been doing my reading every morning which includes The Language of letting go for almost ten years. And of course I have my higher power which is God for me. Every morning I surrender my live and will over to God...so it is so helpful to see other mom's here going through the same as me and seeing how they deal with it.