He sounds very controlling and manipulative from what you've said.
For example, you say "he'll make his daughter take him."
How would he "make her" ? Does she have any free choice in this matter? Would she have your support if she were to say no?
Many of us (myself included) stayed trapped under the thumb of an alcoholic's controlling tactics for a long time because it seemed like the end of the world if setting boundaries would initiate a fight, or if we might get a tongue lashing for being right. We try hard to not rock the boat; we walk on eggshells.
You are in the right here. This is no way to live - not for you, not for daughter. Have you considered trying out an Al-Anon meeting or two in your area? Lots of us have found great support, ideas, and relief that way--those meetings (for loved ones of alcoholics) helped me with clarity, detachment, and problem-solving skills, and it can be such a HUGE relief to be around people who know what you're going through!!
Otherwise, you're getting your whole story from an alcoholic, who is bent on only telling you HIS twisted truth.
Take care sgroy :ghug3