i feel you, i dont get why they feel the need to try and rub it in how "happy" they are now that we the crazy people are out of their lives, my xah is famous for telling me that now hes finally happy, if he was so happy then he wouldnt be trying to convince me that hes happy, and the wanting to be friends thing is just crazy, im your wife not your buddy, my xah just makes absolutely no sense or rather no alcoholic does
i got the same thing how these other friends and women dont fight with him and all i do is want to fight, hmm the reason they dont fight with you is they have no expectations of you, they didnt live with you and depended on you to help with the bills, if i just had a friend like that i wouldnt fight with them either but hes too da*n dumb to see that
ive spent 7 years dealing with him and i guess i just finally got tired of it all
best thing you can do is not to listen to him anymore, if hes so happy now then he should go be happy, you dont need him as a husband or a friend