Thank you so much for responding. I need someone right now. I feel so alone. Yes, my brother and boyfriend do drink. My boyfriend and I are getting engaged and married soon, so leaving really isn't possible. I do love him very, very much. He is a wonderful man. Yet he doesn't understand why I can't just "learn to control my drinking..." Nothing I say makes him understand that I can't. He said " I'm being selfish, but if you don't drink what am I suppossed to do? I feel I will never be allowed to go out anymore." Because we don't "party" without each other. We know how we are when we drink, so we don't party seperately. So I feel bad. How can I ask him not to drink when its my problem?? I feel angry he is not more supportive. Yet I don't blame him for feeling selfish!!! Why do I do? I am a mess!!I feel horrid!