oh gosh, I agree with all of the above, especially the "trust actions, not words" ! (Thanks Cats)
My downfall is I am too niave and soft,
although through meetings, over time,
I have hardened my resolve.
So my suggestion is BE TOUGH! Say NO and mean it.
If you died tomorrow, your addict would figure out a way to support himself/herself without your enabling.
If they can find a way to buy drugs, they sure can find a way to pay the rent, the phone bill, the electric bill, the cell phone bill...etc.
Wonderful thread Ann, and right timely too.
Hugs...and more hugs...