Welcome to SR!
I'm sorry for what you are going through.
I'm a recovering addict. I know that I had to hit bottom before I was willing to even consider recovery. My family made it very clear that they loved me, but they were not willing to participate in my addiction.
I live with my dad and stepmom, now. If there was even a HINT that I was using, I would have to leave...no if's, and's or but's.
We addicts are very resourceful. We will tell you we have nowhere to go, no one to help us, but somehow we always manage to find drugs. I CHOSE to be homeless because drugs were more important than a place to sleep every night. For a lot of us, it takes getting to that point before we decide that drugs just aren't worth it.
I can only imagine how hard this is on you, as a parent. But from my point of view, the most loving thing you can do is to let your AD fall and learn how to pick herself up.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy