No words of wisdom here from me on this one....been there also and I can't say I've dealt with it nicely. The first time he was under the care of a doctor and was weaning down off methadone -- very slowly -- over about 2 months. That was the worst. Back then I tried to help him, but after that I told him it was his deal because *he* chose to get back on pain killers again. I can understand that it must be really, really hard for them to do, but I'm just not able to put up with his mood swings and the wailing (because of bone pain) keeping me up all night. Not anymore anyways. Luckily, the last few times he's gone into a detox center which is a good idea if it's possible. It would be good for you to not have to be around it and it would me more safe for him -- if it's possible. If that isn't possible, maybe just getting away for a while would help and/or doing things to keep your mind focused on other things, like you and your daughter. Hope it goes well for you --