My son and brother are alchoholic.
I do what I feel comfortable with myself doing...it isn't about him getting sober, but about what will I be ok with myself doing...how can I live my life in a happy productive way.
For some tought love is what makes them feel ok about things...like they have done what they can???? (thats what other family members tell me anyway).
For others something different works. That would be me.....I provide my son with a home, food, etc. And I guess I figure it's his problem if he ends up jobless, homeless and alone at some point....I know that I am comfortable with my life and my choices today (always subject to change of course).
I am as powerless over other's drinking as I am over my own.