I'm with Ro on this one - you're looking at this the wrong way round.
Stop drinking and you never have to rely on other people's accounts of your behaviour again.
I think you've a far better chance of knowing whats going on - and deciding whether your BF is being manipulative - when you're sober.
Focusing on stuff like this is just distracting you from the real problem of yr drinking, IMO, shugabooga.
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