Originally Posted by
jennygirl73 
How can I help him see that he has a problem, and how can I help him see that he is ruining his chance at a happy family?
By not enabling his behavior. On your first post it sounds like your already laying down rules, and it makes him retaliate. This is were Al-Anon is helpful. You need the support of people that gone through what you are going through right now. For you own sanity.
He won't stop drinking until the pain and consequences reach a point where he has to, then hopefully he will want to. Until that time comes.. get support from close friends, family, and Al-Anon. You need not go through this alone.
Praying for you
Andy