Jenny, Very sorry you are going through so much turmoil now. I hate to see children suffer. There is alot of support here...so keep posting. I am an alcoholic, but I am also in a marraige with a very controlling, abusive man..he doesn't drink, but he sets the rules and i have to follow,,he has even told me at times that I need to listen and do what he says..
Have you thought of al-anon? If you could get to meetings you would find people who you can connect with..and a whole lotta support. I pray things get better foryou..take care of you and your little girl...you didn't cause this ,and only he can change his behavior....you can only take care of you and your child..god bless.