Prairiegirl- I really believe that IF our addicts were to clean themselves up the first person they would thank would be US. Why you ask? Because when we kicked them out of their cushy lives it was like opening up a scab and all of their crap they had been hiding now is oozing. They are oozing without us. They know it. That is why some take the time to call you up and tell you how GREAT their lives are or contact someone you know and tell them the same thing knowing they will tell you.
No addict wants to be with a stronger person then themselves. It just draws attention to their own failures. To their own realty of not being able to fix their problems. That is why they stay gone. Believe me they are worse off then we are because now they dont have the person that was loving them because of who they were. That is painful. So painful that most continue to use. To make that pain go away. We are lucky we have forums like this where we can find true understanding and acceptance.
Addicts are to scared to find that. And when they do when they can face that reality that is when they look for understanding and acceptance too.