I know how hard it is to detach when they are right there, under your feet. I kicked my AS out a few months ago, but he was in active addiction and there was no grandbaby involved. So I feel your dillema. How about a counselor for you? Maybe you could get some relief from the worry. One thing that someone here said to me that I try to remember is that worry does not change one thing but me. It makes me tense, sad, and I don't participate in my own life. But again, easier said than done. I amsaying a prayer for you right now to have the strength just for one more day.
krhea