I think you all have good points --It's a personal struggle and ultimately, success will pretty much depend on me...I guess. I'm really glad to hear these positive changes you have accomplished while still maintaining a balanced relationship. My Hubb doesn't bring alcohol in to the house very often...never really. He drinks at his friends after work (a few) and then comes home to me.
last night he didn't know that I was trying to quit and asked me if I wanted to go out. We ended up on the couch with food and a movie...it was nice.
Cubile, it sounds like your love transcends this issue -- almost -- and I'm really glad to hear your wife can still enjoy her drink. I don't think we can expect anyone to change their lifestyle to accommodate us; We have the choice. It's our choice, not theirs. however, a little understanding and compromise helps!
Thank you all