I hope you can let go of the resentment you feel. I know I have alot of resentment towards my husband..I am going to do the steps to get over them, hopefully, just what I have been told..I just know that resentment towards someone whom has hurt you is not good..I have years of it.....I do not know if alanon has any kind of steps?? if they do..or even if not..try to not hold the resentment...i know it is not healthy...i lhave lived with it for 10 years...all bottled up..goodluck