I know for me I had to force myself to step out of my comfort zone and ask for help. I went to open discussion meetings and when asked for a topic, I put it out on the table, "need help and friends from AA to teach me how to socialize with you." I got a bunch of phone numbers and was told how to use them and ask for help. It took courage but I knew if I was going to not drink, I had to do it. I then started to pass my number out and said I would appreciate anyone calling me as I am not sure if I can muster the courage to call you, so please call me. It amazed me when I realized so many were as afraid as I was, at one time, but did it because they were more afraid of drinking. So it was stepping out of my comfort zone and going to any lengths for me. It worked, still sober today.