Hey MissFixit, If someone goes into recovery and joins the AA way, yes we put all our wrongs down on paper, we confide in another human being of our wrongs...and then step 9 i believe..i am not there yet..we make amends to those we have wronged...only when it will not cause more harm....It is the 12 steps of AA...you can pull that up on the internet...AA 12 step and see .....But he has to want it...and want it more then anything and give up anything to have it......i truly believe we have to hit our own rock bottom to make that decision to desire and want it more then anything....
Keep working on yourself .....that is what is important and only thing you should worry about, if and when he decides to get help it will have to be for himself, not for you or anyone else.....he will either get help eventually or he will die from it...we have two choices..that is it....God bless and keep doing for you and your sanity...