Originally Posted by
BackToSquareOne 
I guess the reason I'm even posting this is that I still wonder if it really is a learned behavior or is it a bio-chemical brain chemistry...
I suspect that it is a combination of the 2 plus some genetic predisposition thrown into the mix. Either way, there is nothing to gain by dwelling on the problem. The long-term solution is the same for both.
That is changing our thinking and staying spiritually fit.