I dont mean to hijack this thread but I am in the reverse situation.
It is my XAF who has a son from his previous marriage. I was part of his life for 4 years and now that we are not together I would hate him to think I just walked away and left him and I would hate to think he thinks I dont care for him.
My ex has said he will email me photos of him and when he has access call me on the phone so I can say Hi - but maybe this isnt right.
I guess there will come a day when my ex has someone new and wont want me in his sons life, though during binges he tells me to stay away from his son...its so sad he can use his child as a weapon to hurt me.