Originally Posted by
hello-kitty 
These are just a few excerpts from your post. I fail to see what part of this is normal healthy family life OR better than being a single mom.
You are worried about losing everything and you are declaring bankruptcy because of his drug and alcohol problems. And you still make excuses for him. And what's he doing?
You have every right to ask him how much time. Why wouldn't you? This is your future - your car, your house, your kids, that you are talking about.
What is this teaching your children? That this is normal family life?
I never said this was normal family life. I said a normal family life is what I wished for..for me and our children. I just wanted to provide them with both parents for the first time in their lives. I was already in bad financial shape before we got married. There were other problems that contributed to where we are now.
I'm not making excuses for him. I'm just looking for hope and encouragement.