Originally Posted by
likenoother 
The other night he had a glass of wine with me. He said that it was ok for him to do this every now and then....
I think he's started up again and it's my fault.
He has disappeared again and I'm in fear that he has started drinking again. He called in sick at work and I'm scared he is putting his job in jeopardy.
I want to go check on him at his house, but I'm scared that isn't the right thing to do.
Oh fudge
it's not "OK" for a recovering alcoholic to "have a glass of wine"
it's not "your fault"
you didn't cause it, you can't cure it, and you can't control it
I don't know if I would go check on him or not, actually I think I would, I just don't know if that's the healthiest idea, many of my "first ideas" are frequently wrong.
I don't have my "black belt" in Alanon yet, so I just wanted to offer you some support until "the girls" come rally