one thing I did do for myself was not allow myself to feel "pressured" to make a decision right then and there like I think he would have wanted. Most of the times in the past I just gave in. This time I didn't. I stopped and thought about the whole picture.........and that picture is that he is 32, ten months clean, college education, and even if job opportunities are tight right now there has to be a job out there with a weekly salary that doesn't require a car especially with the MARTA system a block away. So in my heart I didn't percieve this as throwing him to the wolves and taking away all support.especially if we are open to helping with next month's fees.
So I feel better with the turmoil removed...........even if he doesn't call for a bit..........my thanks to all, dixied