Thank you all. I believe in my heart its not over. I also believe that he will come to realize that he needs to go no matter what. It wont be a wait and see approach. He is smart and if I leave him to figure this out on his own (which he will he always does) he will go.
I know that I dont have the terrible stories that are so common when dealing with an addict but I lived with an abusive relationship for a long time years ago and I promised myself that I would NEVER do that again. So when things got so stressful for me with his pill problem I had to put a stop to it. I know he loves me and the kids and I know some how some way he will make it back to us.