hey ksplash
I think counselling can be beneficial too - I dunno if you've tried that, but I think it's often a tall order for us, wounded as we are already, to try and heal ourselves - I know for myself where my self medication ended up. Sometimes the perspective we get from others can be useful IMO.
That being said - Bugs and Anna have some great ideas. I also had to learn that my thoughts and feelings can be just just - thoughts and feelings...I do have a choice, if I want, in the way I react to them....
keep it up...
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