wow.. my story exactly, down to the vodka. My husband works weird hours, and I'm a 9-5er, so that's when I'd start drinking too (dinner time). I loved pouring a drink and cooking (no idea what the correlation is!! haha). I've been most successful with changing the time that I cook. Now, I usually go to the gym during the time that I'd be cooking, and by the time I'm back to do my doggie's injection (7:30-8pm), it's just a different time of day and I'm all thrown off my normal schedule so I cook, eat, and chill. I think the working out thing in place of when I used to drink has helped me overall.
Just my .02