Originally Posted by
kidsandmemake3 
Bella, Bella I am glad you posted here... Please discover what it is about you that wants to think that things are ok when they are not. Please do not get in deeper with this relationship until you understand yourself better.
You took the words out of my mouth.
I met an incredible woman with 25 years of sobriety, who was married a little over a year ago. She always told everyone she was a recovering alcoholic when dating, but said almost all of them were actively co-dependent and she didn't need that.
My daughter knows she is no where near ready for a relationship and said those that want one with her have to be co-dependent. This self awareness is a good thing and I'm glad she found it.
Substance abusers, in recovery or not, know what is good or not for them. Bella, please make sure you know the same, too.