Welcome Kathy.... I know where you are coming from. It all just seems to happen and then it comes to the point where you say... "No more" and everyone (your husband and who knows probably your kids) wonder "what's up with Mom". It's always been like this and you always accepted it, what happened to you???? What happened is you decided you were tired of living with addiction. You deserve better, not that I am saying moving away from all that and having boundaries is easy... but you need and deserve to be healthy. Keep coming back and know that we are pulling for you.