Hey,
My girlfriend still drinks too. Maybe 4 glasses of wine when she is out at a bar. She likes being relaxed with a drink but it isnt alcoholism. Anyway, we've had drunken fights before I decided to stop drinking. Lesbian drama doesnt get any easier with alcohol does it? She and I have been much more honest about our issues since I have been sober 24/7. Maybe your partner is bringing all this up now because she knows you are sober and you are in a state to make decisions about the future. It seems like you two really love each other and that is so hard to find. Good luck and let us know what happens...