Thank you both so much for your insightful posts! I really appreciate what you had to say about time. If time tells that we are "meant to be" (there is my romantic side making an appearance!) then being apart will only solidify that truth. If he is unable to maintain sobriety in his recovery, then I won't have to suffer the pitfalls...or deal with the self-doubt that will inevitably come up. That has ALREADY come up in so many ways.
I emailed my posting to my sponsor. She replied that she believes I glossed over the negative ramifications of his drinking. That it is to blame for his first marriage ending and reminded me of some of the more painful aspects of our own relationship. As much as I don't want it to be true, I think she is right. Denial is so deceiving!
Thanks again for the support...