Does this man bring beauty and peace to your life?
Ya know - I've always been told that people should ADD to your life...not TAKE AWAY from it. And that is what these selfish men do...they take away so much from you - little by little so that you really don't see it happening.
What does he contribute other than insanity and guilt?
Ha ha - now if you asked xabf this question he would tell you "I work my a$$ off around this place and my name isn't even on the deed" (yeah well seein as I bought the house MYSELF 3 years prior to meeting him, why on earth would I be THAT stupid?) And yeah he did work alot around the house - especially in the yard. This is what I would call "productive" or "justifiable" drinking. If he did all this wonderful house/yard work than what was there to complain about? He would drink like a fish while doing it but yeah it got done and yeah it got thrown up in my face alot. He just didn't get the whole picture.