My AH was sober for 20 years and we were very happy. He became very successful in his job and seemed to love it. We had 2 boys and I thought we had everything; he also says we did. Then boom he thought he could have just 1 Jack Daniels and it all went away. That was 3 years ago and I did everything I could in hopes that we could stay together but when I found out he was cheating I had to divorce him. Now he is close to losing his career, he has been in trouble with the police, and never calls our children. I know I didn't cause it, I can't control it and I did everything I could but I cannot save him. We still talk and he knows I will always love him but he knows my boundaries and the woman at the liquor store that he is sleeping with apparently doesn't have any. Oops I do slide back from time to time. :brick