cassey, I am sorry to hear you are feeling so sad. I have been there too.
There are days when my husband comes home and starts complaining as soon as he hits the door. Or if he gets home first as soon as I hit the door. :chatter
He used to call me at work in the early afternoon to ask me what I was going to fix him for dinner! (He doesn't do that anymore, some boundries I can stick by)
I sometimes feel like I am the very poorly paid help. When I get overwhelmed like that I try to take some time for myself. In fact that is why I logged on here today. I am getting tired of laundry, housework, and need a break. I am the hardest on myself as far as just pushing on with work.
Take care of yourself, you are a good person and deserve to be treated well.
Keep posting, as I think we all gain from helping each other and seeing the common threads we share and learning how to deal with things in a healthy way. I used to deal with everything by "trying harder" still have days when I do, but not as often. :ghug3