Originally Posted by
Cassey 
I am a lost sole and I have been really trying hard to figure out who I am. I feel like I am this week pathetic person, that dont care at all about herself otherwise I would not remain where I am at.
Being strong is not staying, being strong is leaving.
Yep, that was me, too. Being strong, to me, has nothing to do with staying or leaving.
One day I had my moment of clarity - and I took steps to take care of me. It is only in hindsight I can see just how much I loathed myself for staying in an awful situation. That loathing, in turn, kept me there because I was too depressed to do anything.
What worked for me: Al Anon, individual counseling and our doctor (and SR later). All helped me start to consider I might be a worthwhile person. What a concept.
Be kind to you - you are a good and decent person who deserves to be treated with dignity and respect - in my opinion it starts with self love.
((( )))