I'll go check out the site but my thoughts haven't always been to let the addict hurt himself and if possible "help" before the bottom falls out. But there is a time line where we did realize that no matter what we said or did~~our son was going to find his own recovery in his own time. Thats when its time to back away and stop enabling (codie)) with the cash. I'll have to check this book out..or theory!! Thanks for sharing. Smiles, Bonnie