I'm beginning to think of guilt as one of the hallmark features of my co-dependency.
Somehow, through childhood experiences, religious upbringing, and living with an alcoholic, I got the message that it was MY job to make people happy/secure, and MY fault when they felt otherwise.
But that's just not true.
Remembering that is the key to making sure that I have what I need.
My AH and I are in the process of separating - we're trying to work out the legal details of the split, and it has been an incredibly trying process for me.
Money talk brings out a bunch of my guilt issues!
Breathe deep. They want to hand you the responsibility for their decisions - for their troubles. They want to give you the power to "save" them.
Do you want to take it?
-TC