(((((Silverberry)))))
Please try and remember this is PURE MANIPULATION on his part! There are several Rescue Missions in addition to the Salvation Army where you are, and he can eat several times a day and have a bed to sleep in at night.
Just try and look on it, that everytime he calls he is QUACKING. Picture the big white AFLAC duck with the orange beak. It's just quacking.
Oh, and btw, you are entitled to change the 'agreement' anytime you want to. You ARE NOT responsible for him and where HIS ACTIONS got him.
You need that money for you and your children.
As to your Mom, I know it's sad, but this is part of your codependency that you have to work on. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE for her screw ups. Its just that simple. That money is for your children and you in case of an emergency. By giving her the money, she once again does not have to take the consequences for her OWN ACTIONS. You are NOT Mrs. Fix-it.
Please, try some Alanon and/or CODA meetings. I really do believe they can help you so much and give you some peace and serenity in your life.
I almost forgot.....................NO is a complete sentence.
J M H O
Love and hugs,