hmm, on one hand...alcohol does lower inhibitions. so there is a chance that he feels (or thinks he feels) whatever he said. on the other hand, ive said plenty of stuff when i was drunk the i absolutely did not believe or feel when i was sober. there is a good chance that he was just spouting drunkspeak.
it is important to remember that alcoholics are plagued with a terrible guilt and become very defensive. we are so insecure about our problem (while in the active addiction stage) that anyone or anything that brings the problem out into the light is the target of displaced negative feelings. so if your A worries that having another child will interfere with his drinking he may resent the situation. im sorry you are hurting. just remember that he is sick and, like other illnesses, alcoholism makes people behave differently than they normally do. please try not to take it personally.