Hi Corine,
I am doing fine. Was away this weekend so sorry that I did not respond before now. You are doing the right thing with Jay, by waiting until he asks about his dad. When you go to the lawyer ask what you can do and take his advise and figure out what is best for you.
I would not allow him to see Jay unless someone was with them for awhile. You will know when you feel he is clean and is really trying, you have been there so you know him better than we do.
Take your time there is no rush right now.
Good luck,
Hugs and Prayers